Vice wrote a piece about states and their laws on upskirt photos and mentioned this site.
No word yet on if they’ve caught the pervert. I’m still annoyingly skittish at Fulton Street and ride the escalator with my back against the rail now. Not a terrible measure to have to take but a constant reminder of what happened that day.
But they wrote a story and used quotes from this blog and the WPIX11 coverage as though I spoke to a UPI reporter. I have never been contacted by Ben Hooper.
Just for the record.
I met with the captain of NYPD Transit 2 today after work. He assured me that they take these crimes very seriously. He also ran me through what would be happening now that an investigation has been opened. (I should add that it was erroneously initially reported as harassment. The charges were upgraded to unlawful surveillance.) I was also told that he personally reaches out to victims of these types of situations whenever they happen; in other words, he was telling me that he was not talking to me as a direct response to this blog. I appreciated that he called me into meet with him, although I can’t shake the sense that much of it was damage control.
I felt a little bit like he was talking at me (rather than with me) but he did pause to ask me if I had any questions, and for the most part let me voice my concerns. I think I had more comments than questions and I was able to relate most of them. I feel like we had as open of a conversation as he was able and willing to have as a commanding officer in his position. And I do think he seemed to lean in the direction of agreeing with me on certain points. No outright apology was made but I do sense he acknowledged that not everything went according to training and protocol.
At this point I can’t say that I am satisfied per se, but I do feel that this chapter is coming to a close. My dual primary concerns have been addressed and like I said a few posts ago, I have made my point and I have been heard. I appreciate the outpouring of support and encouragement I have received in the past few days. I’m sorry that something similar or worse has happened to so many of you. Thanks to my family and friends who have been outraged with me, as well as patient. Thank you for reading and for understanding. If you didn’t understand, thank you for trying to understand.
Hopefully this perv gets caught soon. I will definitely update if he has. I will also update if things suddenly take some kind of unexpected turn and assurances that were made to me are not fulfilled.
A final thought: ladies (and gentleman), please report these crimes. Please take the time to report them and hold those who are in charge of putting a stop to these crimes to a high standard of appropriate response and reaction. Please demand that all complainants be treated with dignity and respect — regardless of who they are, or what they look like, or where they come from. Please expect more from our civic servants and please do more for each other. I wouldn’t have been able to do any of this without my witness to alert me and to stay with me to help. I certainly wouldn’t have been able to do this without my coworkers listening to me and empowering me to not settle for the treatment I received.
And lastly, please don’t think you can target me and get away with it. I will hold you accountable.
I received two phone calls from the NYPD yesterday. The lines of communication have opened.
There’s a DNAInfo story and the Pix11 coverage. I’m not sure where this media coverage is going and I’m not sure if the intention of this blog is being conveyed.
I wanted to alert people about the creep in Fulton Street as well as make it known that our police may not be well equipped to assist victims of sexual offenses in the subway. I also wanted to raise awareness about how often this happens to people and how often we’re expected to just accept it as a condition of living in the city. We’re asked to fend for ourselves and to not be surprised when we can’t get the assistance we want. We’re told to be vigilant on our daily commutes and to be the perfect likeable victim when crimes are committed against us. We’re expected to be patient and understanding that there are so many creeps in the city and so many cases and we’re just one of thousands of cases the NYPD is working on, despite the attack being personal and a daily stain on our psyche for at least the next few days.
By not engaging in a conversation with me to explain to me that an investigation is in fact happening and that my report will being taken seriously, I can only find out what’s happening through NYPD spokespeople who have answered the media’s questions. It makes me second guess my instinct and wonder if what happened to me wasn’t serious, even though the sick feeling I have in my stomach when I think about it confirms that I was violated and that something awful did happen.
I’ve spent the past few hours feeling pretty lousy about this whole thing and more like I should just shut up. I feel tired of my own anger and desire to speak out and I suppose by not engaging me, the NYPD is hoping I’ll just go away.
And, well, it’s working; I feel like I’ve made my point and there are no more points to make. I was violated, reported the incident per the MTA recommendations, received lackluster assistance that left me with unanswered questions and uncertainty about what would be done, still don’t have a copy of my report, and am getting drips and drabs of information about my incidence from the NYPD via the media. I’ve been ignored and the push I tried to make against the system has left me feeling worn out and discouraged. I feel as though I have been told my place in the world and on the list of things law enforcement cares about and it’s not very encouraging.
Refinery29 reached out to me. We did an email interview. Here it is.
They followed up with the NYPD and this is what they said: “She was not sexually assaulted. Someone lifted up her skirt and took pictures of her. That’s unlawful surveillance.”
I am well aware that it’s not sexual assault according to the NY Penal Code but this is a blog, not a law review article and since I still don’t have a copy of my report, I can’t be sure what category the sexual misconduct is so I have to call it what it felt like.
I have still yet to engage in a conversation with somebody from the NYPD. I have a feeling they’re not too fond of me right now but the longer they ignore me and not have a conversation with me about my police report and any possible investigation that will happen as to follow up as well as talk about what the hell went wrong yesterday (because trust, the officers themselves were apologetic about the dysfunction) the more I’m going to rattle the chains about this.
Pix11 News will report at 5PM. Will follow up with link if you can’t catch it.
<blockquote class=”twitter-tweet” lang=”en”><p lang=”en” dir=”ltr”>After 1 woman says cops wouldn’t help her catch an upskirt creep, she’s taking matters in her own hands. Ill explain <a href=”https://twitter.com/PIX11News”>@PIX11News</a> at 5p</p>— Narmeen Choudhury (@PIX11Narmeen) <a href=”https://twitter.com/PIX11Narmeen/status/596766178820907008″>May 8, 2015</a></blockquote>
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